We all know people and have probably been people who have used words that could be described by all of the above adjectives. But stop for a minute. Who do you think of as someone whose speech is merciful? We all know that sweet hearted person and oh they make us feel loved and accepted even when we know we may not have deserved such merciful approval at times. These people are so life-giving. I want my words to be seasoned with mercy like that. Don’t you? 

 

Then there is that person who is critical of everyone who leaves the room. They can hardly get out the room before they are judged of every motive they never even knew they had. Even in typing these words I am convicted in my heart not to be critical of critical people else I am no different. It’s such a tiny matter of the heart that can be overlooked. I am reminded of this image I found on my Mom’s wall that is so appropriate. 

“You never look good trying to make someone else look bad.”  How true that is!

What is so broken in many of us from time to time to think the opposite of that is true? Good news! Having a critical spirit or a habit of criticism can be broken. First, it has to be recognized and realize the pain it causes the recipient and ultimately yourself.

 “DO NOT judge and criticize and condemn others, so that you may not be judged and criticized and condemned yourselves.”

‭‭Matthew‬ ‭7:1‬ ‭AMP‬‬

http://bible.com/8/mat.7.1.amp

 

The minute I become critical, what causes me to stop it or repent is realizing I too deserve criticism of one thing or another. Then mercy wells up inside of me for the person whom just a second ago I could have hung up by their toes. The key is for this to happen BEFORE we speak. {note to self! BEFORE I speak!} This way, words of mercy are given as gifts to the hearer rather than critical words that land as daggers to the soul. 

 

What about those who we surround ourselves that are just kind no matter what. They are like anchors who cannot be moved. Don’t you just love the consistency of those who speak kindness only and always. Their strength is second to none I’ve noticed. Oh, for all to have that characteristic, this world would be a heavenly place. The Bible says that where there is strife there is every evil work. I’ve experienced that and I’m sure you have too. But I’ve also experienced an atmosphere of kindness. It is so sweet to the soul and evokes confidence in those around. Let’s make it a goal to become thought of as one who kindness drips from our tongues rather than petty jabbing and undermining. Which people would you rather be around? Those who speak kindly to you or those with continuous harsh tones toward you? Are your words kind, harsh, critical, or merciful? Words matter. Say nice ones! 

Happy Monday!