I heard TD Jakes teach on this and just had to share….
The confidant is there for you not just to be loyal to the cause. A confidant lives and breathes off of their relationship with you. There are only a very few of these and you are blessed if you have three.
Your constituents are with the cause, not you. They are only with you because of the cause. They look like a confidant but they are not there for you but for the cause. Their attraction is the mission. So don’t think just because they look like a confidant that they are. Guard your heart and don’t confide in them. The constituent will hop over to another cause and leave you with your heart broken. They will leave you to go to someone else who can get them closer to the mission they are interested in. It was never about you. The diffenece is motives. They are both in it to win it. The confidant will be with you even if there is a quicker route to what they want. The other one will leave you in a heart beat. You will not have a room full of confidants. You have to learn how to work with both. Some are like scaffolding and lean up against what you are building and when it is done or changes and they leave, you have to learn to love them when they come and love them when they go. Stop getting attached to those who come and go. Pour your heart and life into those you know are actually with YOU & not just their own agenda.
And then there are comrades who are not for what you are for but they are only there for what you are against. Don’t think they are your friend just because they join you in a fight just because of the fight. Those will join with you even though they hardly like you to question what you question. A good leader knows which of these is which. A good leader knows they didn’t betray you. They were never actually even for you. They will use what you confided in them to try to destroy you because they are fighters. Never confide in a comrade or a constituent. Only confide in a true confidant.
When you know how to lead all three, you will be able to take the mountain. You will no longer be set back from not knowing who you are and who they are. You will lead out with confidence & take back what the enemy has stolen.
This blog probably made very little sense to you if you are not a leader of a company or ministry. But if you are a leader this could be massively life changing. Had I known this years ago, it would have saved me bucketloads of tears. Even for those who are not leaders, I pray this will help you locate yourself. I pray you find your confidants and guard your heart with constituents and comrades.
It is critical in this time to find people who are loyal and stop settling with relationships where people are half in and half out. It is time for hot or cold, in or out, all or none! This world is getting darker and the church is getting brighter. I believe the fire of the Holy Spirit is about to consume us and only what is holy will last. This may sound a bit like turn or burn but I’d prefer to see it as an admonition to slide into the altar and lay off weights that easily beset you. Make no room for offense and strife and let’s lock arms like never before in the church. We have a job to do and it’s not getting any easier. It’s going to get darker and we have to know who is in our corner and who is just here for the fun and the easy.
We are living in a battle and I don’t know about you but I’m ready to run to the roar and accomplish all I was put on this earth to accomplish! Who will join me and who says, “Sign me up! I’m in!” ?
Let’s do this!
Happy Monday!
Adrienne
Hello
YOU NEED QUALITY VISITORS FOR YOUR: adriennecooley.com ?
WE PROVIDE HIGH-QUALITY VISITORS WITH:
– 100% safe for your site
– real visitors with unique IPs. No bots, proxies, or datacenters
– visitors from Search Engine (by keyword)
– visitors from Social Media Sites (referrals)
– visitors from any country you want (USA/UK/CA/EU…)
– very low bounce rate
– very long visit duration
– multiple pages visited
– tractable in google analytics
– custom URL tracking provided
– boost ranking in SERP, SEO, profit from CPM
CLAIM YOUR 24 HOURS FREE TEST HERE=> ventfara@mail.com
Thanks, Gregory Strock
Hello
YOU NEED HELP TO BUILD SEO LINKS FOR: adriennecooley.com ?
I just checked out your website, and wanted to find out if you need help for SEO Link Building ?
WE OFFER YOU THE BEST SEO STRATEGY FOR 2021.
Build an unlimited number of Backlinks and increase Traffic to your websites which will lead to a higher number of customers and much more sales for you.
If You Are Interested, I’m waiting for your response here => seosubmitter@mail.com
Thanks, Deena Arek