My then, fifteen year old may have been more right than I knew and I can hardly believe I’m admitting it. Few things would frustrate me more than when he would say, “It’s not that deep, Mom!” and he said it about everything, especially when he just didn’t wanta hear “another sermon”.

I was working with some amazing leaders recently and this phrase kept coming to mind as I heard story after story of their biggest concerns. As I reflected on how similar what we all go through is, I remembered that’s how I knew my books had to be written. It was when I realized I was not alone and we all have such similar struggles, desires, temptations, triggers, limiting beliefs, and even skills, dreams, and family dynamics. It’s actually uncanny.

The further I sojourn gaining skills, digging into scripture, praying, learning psychology, leadership, all the things, I am coming to see…it’s truly not that deep. My son was right. Well, maybe not always in the context he used it with me trying to avoid meaningful convo but truth be told, probably even some of that time, too. Now, looking back, I probably wore them out and don’t blame em a bit for trying to get me to chill just a lil about some things. I doubt they will see this so this can be between us. lol

I am seeing that if we make it deep, we can keep it vague and mysterious. That’s when the solutions seem to just out in front of us amidst the fog that keeps from quite being able to grasp the truth of the matter that would as the Bible says, set us free. Yet in all actuality, the solution is so simple we miss it. We’ve hired a lot of people to coach us and as helpful as they have all been, I end up saying, “Duh!” to a lot of what we’ve paid generously to “learn” what we pretty much already knew but just weren’t DOING fully in the right way. It wasn’t wasted money at all because it’s brought clarity to us and we are now so much more confident to DO the obvious that we know in our hearts is the right thing to do regarding leadership, direction, ministry decisions, business decisions, life matters, etc.

Science tells us that a vast majority – not all – there are definitely cases where it is not the case BUT again, the majority of diabetes could be controlled by diet. My friend who has treated the elderly for over thirty years now is convinced that she literally would not have a job nor would thousands of other physical therapists or nurses who treat the elderly if people simply ate cleaner and would exercise even just a little. Or if they did have jobs, it would be treating half the people at older ages because of wise lifestyle choices. I am in no way a medical expert but it does seem to make sense. I’ve noticed in my own time management, when I spend as much time doing what’s vital to be done and less on what isn’t as important, or worrying about or complaining about all that needs to be done, things go more smoothly and I get a lot more done much more effectively and efficiently. It’s simple but profound.

As much as we want to “figure it all out” while thinking circularly with overwhelm, going down rabbit holes spiraling out of control mentally and emotionally with anxiety and depression, so much of it could be avoided by understanding that “It’s not that deep, Mom”. It’s been said that us women tend to hold everything in one space in our brains while men compartmentalize more naturally. So just know, it’s usually not as bad as we think it is even if it’s not quite as good as they think. Of course there are exceptions where this illustration is opposite of the norm and if so in your case, flip it and then you’re the one who has to have patience with your husband or men at the office like most men in our lives have to have patience with us in this area. Point being, even that isn’t that deep. Just learn that it’s whichever way for you and yours and adapt in how you respond.

Choose to do what ya need to do when it comes to whatever is bothering you. If you’re not feeling organized, go take this test and find out which kind of organizer you are, watch a few YouTube vidoes and get after it. If you are struggling in your marriage, go to a great counselor and gain knowledge. My people perish for lack of knowledge. There is simply I know that you may not that makes me enjoy my marriage if you aren’t so much. But I have invested thousands of dollars into my marriage. If you haven’t, it’s not that deep. Go be about it. If not, stop complaining and admit you don’t really care about your marriage because if you did, you would be a dog on a bone to get it healthy come hell or high water like you do with other things you care about. If you are stressed out of your mind with work or school, learn the skills you need to succeed or change to do what you’re great at more naturally and enjoy. It’s not that deep.

Ya get the point, you’re only as deep as ya do. Get to doing what it takes to get what ya want or don’t. But stop gazing at the stars or muddling through the fog wondering why this and why that but instead, put your hand to something you CAN DO and do what you can to be better, do better, and live better. If you can’t then God is a liar and He’s not. You CAN DO all things through Christ who strengthens you.

Can’t wait to hear your testimony whether you beat diabetes by doing the work (if it’s the kind that can be reversed that way) or beat a life of chaos from doing the work or beat depression and anxiety from doing the work. Maybe you beat having a failing marriage by doing the work. It’s only as DEEP as ya DO as one of our coaches says. It is “figure-outable”. You can do it. Locate the “Not-a-Problems” and stop being distracted by those so you can focus on the actual issues and make progress.

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XO,

A